In talking with people from around the country it has become clear to me that we are all, to some degree, suffering with grief.
The Pandemic of 2020 might go into the history books as the little virus that brought the world to a stand still, but will there be a footnote about the enormous emotional toll it took on people worldwide?
One of the closest friends to grief is fear. Fear is the first to show its face when we experience loss. We fear failing to get our basic needs met. We fear losing control over those things in life that we depend on, our jobs, our relationships and even our sense of our own identity.
The Covid19 pandemic has crept into our lives and we are grieving the loss of our roles, our routines and our freedoms. Perhaps, hardest of all, we are grieving the loss of contact with those we care about most. Living through a pandemic has temporarily reshaped our lives and the result is grief.
Feeling the effects of fear, stress, or loss saps our energy. Regardless whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, grief can drain our emotional energy stores. Without understanding why, we can become sullen, irritable or fatigued. Many of my clients report feeling guilty for having so much extra time but getting so little done.
It makes sense. Worrying about getting one's basic needs met is emotionally draining. Will the store have the foods that I need? Will I have the money to pay for my medication? Have I touched something that has been contaminated? When our minds become overwhelmed with thought such as these, concentrating becomes more difficult and mental fatigue sets in.
So, when my clients want to know how to get past their emotional fatigue I give them homework.
Allow Children to Fall
Children need to be allowed to go out into the world, to explore, to build forts and to scrape their knees. Studies show that the child’s brain needs these experiences in order to develop normally. Regular outdoor play, without parental supervision allows the child to learn:
1. decision making skills,
2. self confidence,
4. self expression and creativity
5. Relationship skills
When we hover over our children we are attempting to alleviate our own fears. Doing so comes at a great cost to our child.